Take control over how you will age | A Page on Age

Do you believe that you have the power to change how you age?  Many things contribute to our aging: genetics, lifestyle habits, and perceptions.  Since we cannot choose our parents, only a third of our aging process is out of our control, so that means 2/3 is in our control.  This should be positive news!  In fact research is showing that no matter what your age, you can with some lifestyle changes like exercise and diet, halt some chronic diseases.

Getting older does not always mean a descent into feebleness.  You do have control over how you think and cope about your life.  My clients teach me this.  My 95 year old, wheelchair bound, partially blind client showed me this.  Even though to look at him, one would think he should be depressed maybe even cranky about his lot in life.  But he just continued to do what he could, wheeling around his apartment building visiting with other residents, listening to books on tape or TV, and lived his life.  He would say getting old and frail is hard, but “What can I do?  This is my life and I am going to live while I am alive.”  His attitude and ability to cope endeared him to others.  He had so many people wanting to visit with him that his caregiver had to set up a visiting schedule.  Now he was no “Pollyanna”.  He still had pain, needing daily treatment for his cellulites, but he had control on how he thought about it.  How we think affects how we feel and then translate to how we are perceived by others.

This takes conscience work, and practice.  My client could have just as easily become cantankerous about his situation in life.  He spent most of his adult life practicing being positive even when life sent him challenges.    He could still acknowledge how hard his daily routine was by being dependent on a caregiver, and that he would rather not need help.  But he knew he needed help and was gracious at accepting it.

So, since we get to control how we think about our own aging process, what’ll it be?

Also, check out a Ted Talk:

Betsy Zuber is the Geriatric Specialist for the city of Mercer Island Youth and Family Services, She provides social services to anyone who lives on Mercer Island 55+ and their families.  You can reach her at 206-275-7752 or


We encourage an open exchange of ideas on this story's topic, but we ask you to follow our guidelines for respecting community standards. Personal attacks, inappropriate language, and off-topic comments may be removed, and comment privileges revoked, per our Terms of Use. Please see our FAQ if you have questions or concerns about using Facebook to comment.

Read the Oct 19
Green Edition

Browse the print edition page by page, including stories and ads.

Browse the archives.

Friends to Follow

View All Updates